As I was called for my scan I was nervous and emotional. She asked me how far gone I thought we were, and if I could have been mistaken. But I still didn't want to be the one who stopped this baby's chance to live. I was becoming numb to the whole process. Likely to have serious medical problems all his life. What were babys measurements at 20 week scan? Severe chromosomal conditions such as Edwards' syndrome are now often picked up in the first trimester antenatal screening but itwill usually be more obviousat the 18- 20 week scan, though usually a firm diagnosis will not be made until one or two specialists have weighed up all available evidence about the baby - which usually means that another expert needs to scan the baby again, or until the woman has had an amniocentesis. 'Soft markers'. The week that followed was an agonising wait. We had to discuss what we wanted to do with the little body after delivery. I give pregnant women dirty looks. Again the legs were quite twisted, they said that the baby's sternum was very short - things weren't in proportion you know - the head was quite large, the neck was very thick, there wasn't really like a neck as such it was just things were kind of - there were lots of things that obviously the consultant could see that we weren't aware of. So instead, I was advised to go home and let nature take its course. It felt as if we had gone power crazy. He told me that they may want to do blood tests, but that 'he didn't see the point'. Can you describe the difference between the scan at this later stage in a pregnancy? Others, including those who had been given leaflets to read about the scan beforehand as well as some who were health professionals, said that they had been nave about the 20-week scan. Specialist scans are performed in specialist fetal units and if clinicians feel that there might be problems scanning will be done up to 32 weeks. So choroid plexus cysts on their own, no problem, but if there's something else wrong, then that's a problem. I didn't sleep that night I don't think. A black and white picture of your baby will then be seen on the ultrasound screen. I agreed to an internal scan as the sonographer said we could get a better picture of what was happening. So I suppose from that aspect, mind you having not been told that or sitting there, I wouldn't have thought necessarily that was odd. The hardest thing I have ever done. Originally I hadn't wanted to go down that road. My baby might have Down's syndrome. This scan takes place between 18 weeks and 20 weeks 6 days of pregnancy and is commonly called the 20-week scan. I ran into the bedroom to tell Sam, who was ecstatic. So we left it there, and we didn't actually think that there was anything really to worry about after that scan. See you in -. This one cannot show you anything, that's what's inside your mind. I just want to be normal again. And it's, I can't remember exactly what it was now, it's about where the brain is supposed to form. The pain was bearable but uncomfortable, the hospital rang me a few days later and asked me how I was. And then I can't remember an awful lot more about that scan apart from that feeling of searching of how to react in an unknown situation - your brain's kind of trying to work out what to say, what to do, but I had no idea what to say or what to do and I think my first thought was, does that mean our first daughter's okay? And I know I can't hurry up the process of grieving. Having the scan does not hurt but the sonographer may need to apply slight pressure to get the best views of your baby. It was a bit worrying but on the plus side I got an extra couple of scans and an extra couple of pictures. Specialist scans Just doing it. I get terribly irritated by my close friends and family. We both thought we would like some good to come out of this horrible experience, so wanted to talk to somebody about the possibility of using the body for research purposes. It was, 'Oh we'll come back to that'. There were also two spots on his heart, which were "soft markers" for Down's syndrome. Some hospitals do offer earlier anomaly scans of the baby, but they will not show as much detail as scans performed between 18 and 20weeks. I give obsessively to charity, especially those linked to sick children. Many parents were shocked by findings from the 20-week and later scans. I had an appointment with my consultant 2 days later, and again he said, you know, 'Very common - shouldn't worry about it too much, you know, if, the problem is if they find anything else wrong'. The thing about that which I felt was difficult is that we could tell when being scanned that there was something very seriously wrong. He then told us what the prognosis would mean for the child. Back on the EPU unit, a doctor organised for me to be admitted into the ward, to take the medical management under supervision as the sac was now to big for me to safely miscarry on my own at home. The termination would be averting a tragedy. Away you go'. Just that really! The hormone levels had dropped, but they wanted to scan me again. And shortly after that, that scan we'd finished and the consultant leant back and said, 'I'm afraid we have some problems here'. Our nightmare began when I went for my 20-week scan. I let out an animal scream and [wife] kind of leapt onto me on the bed. You know there's always that bit on the bottom of the thing, 'These are diagnostics, do not bring other children,' - blah, blah, blah.. it's not, you know, it's not a family outing kind of thing, but it feels like it. But before he could speak, he, too, had broken down. hi ladies. The appointment usually takes around 30 minutes. I think I was about 20 weeks cos they, the hospital I think did the 12 and the 20, that was their standard thing and, yeah, so I got the 20 weeks one. Specialist scans are performed in specialist fetal units and if clinicians feel that there might be problems scanning will be done up to 32 weeks. We thought it would all be over very quickly but, in fact, it was another 11 hours before the baby was delivered. My partner was away working and was waiting to hear whether he was having a son or daughter. I felt empty, scared, guilty and incredibly heartbroken. Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy something through our posts, we may get a small share of the sale (more details here), tbh, they never give you good news at scans. So it was, there was very, very little movement from the baby because I remembered first time round by that stage, you know, that the baby was quite big and it moved around a lot at a later scan. The only thing you're thinking now is the birth, and what if something goes wrong in the birth? Sometimes women were told that the sonographer had found a 'marker' or sign of a chromosomal condition and had to wait for an amniocentesis to confirm the findings. It was another consultant, who said, "I'm afraid I have some bad news - your baby has Down's syndrome." If an abnormality is confirmed or suspected, referral is usually required, although some obvious major fetal abnormalities, such as anencephaly, may not require a second opinion (this should be decided by local guidelines). I don't know how we got through the next couple of days. Several parents said they would have preferred being told something, even it was vague. Some hospitals do offer earlier anomaly scans of the baby, but they will not show as much detail as scans performed between 18 and 20weeks. You may like someone to come with you to the scan appointment. It's part of our family. Have I misunderstood what's going on?' The same rush of excitement. It felt like a lifetime to reach our 12-week-scan. I was experiencing some light bleeding for the past few days. That he - I think I was 21 weeks and 3 days, and he was coming up at 19 weeks and 4 days, or something like that. Those two weeks were agonising for us both. What would we like to do with the body? Please note that the opinions expressed by users in Tommys Book of #misCOURAGE are solely those of the user, who is unlikely to have had medical training. The chances that anything bad will be discovered are v v small. But that was too easy. And it was Christmas Eve and at the time I didn't think, the sonographer did spend a little bit of time scanning us and queried my dates several times and then explained that she couldn't quite see the baby's heart properly and would we come back in a couple of days? Tears started to roll down my face. We talked about the different sorts of pain relief I could have and I opted for a morphine drip, which I could control. I had never imagined having an amniocentesis. Instead, we were shown to a room slightly away from the rest of the ward and the midwife stayed with us to talk through what was going to happen. Some people had underestimated how serious any abnormality found at this stage could be for the baby. Wishing to be anywhere, but here being told the same agonising truth over and . But other than that everything was fine. Some people want to find out if their baby has one of the 11 conditions and some do not. Why me and not you, you bastard? Baby loss support All the hopes, dreams, and plans we made with our little bumps has been taken away from us. My partner really wanted me to, and by that time I had no sense of what was right or what I should do. It went from bad, to worse, to worse, to dire, then to better. The scan looks for 11 different conditions in your baby and cannot find everything that might be wrong. This article was amended on 24 November 2015 to anonymise the writer. My belly was growing and I was feeling great. The 18-20 week antenatal scan and further tests. And they took us out of the scanning room, into a more quiet room while they typed up the report. We had so much power, we could decide that this little thing should die. She didn't want to see the baby. Being generous and kind generally happens only when you're happy. I had hope that the little bumps inside me were fighting just as much as I was to stay with me. I was young, I didn't need one. We also use cookies set by other sites to help us deliver content from their services. We were bound to each other because of the blood that was on both our hands. And my husband, we never got to sit next to each other in the consulting room, my husband was across the room from me, and I was sat next to the consultant, and we were laughing and joking with him about, you know, the home delivery, and everything was going to be, 'Are you still on for the home delivery?' There was cause for concern. 18-20 week scans provide clinicians with more information than earlier scans because by18 weeks a healthy baby should be larger and better developed. It sounds crazy, but I just knew. We understand the real meaning of "shit happens". This was a ray of hope for us. It doesn't remove the guilt, but I don't know what else to do. We felt as if we were in limbo. The same anxious wait for a little, pathetic cry. Because we knew that that wasn't normal, that wasn't what we'd experienced before, it wasn't just the, 'There's the arm, there's the leg, oh look the baby's moving'. So we went back the day after Boxing Day, the 27th, and the consultant greeted us, which made my alarm bells go, and she started scanning us and I think her lines were, 'What concerns me about this baby is that they've got a diaphragmatic hernia, which has meant that part of the stomach of the baby was in its chest cavity.'. As I say, I'm not a very nice person at the moment. Laura miscarried her twin babies in February. Some people had underestimated how serious any abnormality found at this stage could be for the baby. As though I went power mad for a week, killing my innocent unborn child, and now I am tainted for ever. But she told us, she told us, she gave us some more detail, she said, 'There's this, there's a big gap in the brain where there shouldn't be'. And that was Monday afternoon. The gel makes sure there is good contact between the probe and your skin. You have accepted additional cookies. And nothing prepares you at all. If this happens, you will be offered one further scan by 23 weeks of pregnancy. I wrote a few things down last night when we were trying to go over things, just to remind myself. She describes having to make a . But the closeness has remained after the drama has died down. Anyway we went in for the meeting with the consultant on this particular time, and we'd got to, I was 30 weeks pregnant by then. He felt doing more blood tests would only cause me more discomfort and false hope. The doctor didn't come. We would terminate the pregnancy. We'll make an appointment with the senior sonographer, the consultant at the local hospital, and she'll do your scan and she'll be able to tell you more things'. I had no idea if we were doing the "right" thing. And everybody knows and everything is right. In most cases the scan will show that your baby appears to be developing as expected but sometimes a condition is found or suspected. The blood test confirmed it was twins. And, so they sent me home at that stage because they said the specialist wasn't available till the following day, which was awful. It seemed inconceivable that we would not be having a baby in May. She brought up a picture of the heart on the screen. Three midwives came and went. After she had taken all the measurements, the sonographer told us that she was concerned with the length of the baby's limbs in relation to the head. Being deeply unhappy and kind to others at the same time is nigh on impossible. At first, I still had to deal with the physical implications of having given birth. Surely he couldn't have missed anything else that is so serious x. And it was then because we were at 20 weeks by this point, there was only fairly short window to actually, to get some more tests done, find out what the problems were, and then make any decisions that might have to be made. I was told this was common as my body and hormones still thought I was pregnant. . And I'm glad I did and she's glad she didn't. b>Bad news at 20 week scan. We don't know, but it's not looking good'. But for those few days they were torture. And, it does not occur to you in the slightest. It is also sometimes referred to as the mid-pregnancy scan . Very occasionally this second scan cannot be completed, for example because: In this case you will not be offered another screening scan but you will offered an all over physical examination for your baby after birth. I endured 12 hours of medication and in the early hours February 7, 56 days after my first scan (at nearly 18 weeks), I miscarried our babies. So that was it. So we'd gone through the Down's syndrome or worse scare, we'd had conversations about what we would do, if it was confirmed that it was Down's syndrome or another syndrome, another sort of chromosome abnormality. Severe chromosomal conditions such as Edwards' syndrome are now often picked up in the first trimester antenatal screening but itwill usually be more obviousat the 18- 20 week scan, though usually a firm diagnosis will not be made until one or two specialists have weighed up all available evidence about the baby - which usually means that another expert needs to scan the baby again, or until the woman has had an amniocentesis. And in this instance the scan was very evident that there was something very seriously wrong. We'd sort of put those discussions to the back of our mind, and then all of a sudden there are other abnormalities so yeah it was a bit a bit of a shocker [laughs]. It was positive, and I felt elated. I was saving my child from pain and suffering. blood tests, CVS) were clear - and as one woman put it, 'after the triple test* (Down's syndrome screening) you stop thinking anything can go wrong'. And I'd been on the internet looking up all sorts of things and everything was so negative, it was very depressing, because I thought, 'Well, maybe they've made a mistake, or maybe it's something they can fix, I don't know'. And the first few things they said it didn't sound as thing, as though things were terribly wrong. Just wonder whether anyone had ever been told? Let a mum know you're thinking of them send one of our personalised Mother's Day cards today, Home The 18 -20 week fetal anomaly scan is a watershed in most pregnancies because for the majority of women it will be the last time they are scanned before giving birth. The scan will find about half (50%) of those babies who have heart defects. So we decided that, to have the scan and we went along I think early in the week for that, and spent quite a lot of time with the consultant after that. However painful and traumatic the labour was, it was better than what would happen at the end of it. This is not what I imagined pregnancy to feel like', Baby Loss Awareness Week - Voice Five - Bryony Seabrook. During the examination, sonographers need to keep the screen in a position that gives them a good view of your baby. And they took me to another room and they explained that the baby had what they thought was ventriculomegaly or something. We walked all the way home. He started to scan me with a cold expression, then told me, "it didn't look good" and that "my womb looked raggedy". We left for home feeling completely numb. And I knew there was no way out. I was disgusted - disgusted that such a tablet existed, let alone that I should have to take it. You've had, you've had your Down's Syndrome check and that's okay. I thought surely everything is ok, as they couldn't detect twins the week before. Has anyone been told the wrong sex at 20 week scan? So had to come back in a week's time for a scan, which again is quite a common thing I found out. But even if I was there, I still think I would have wanted to see the detail on the scan. And my partner and I would have a completely different life from the one we'd imagined. We use some essential cookies to make this website work. They would then re-test me in two days time. Then, three days later, I would go to the labour ward - the ward I had been expecting to visit in two and a half months. Limitations of the 18-20 week scan By this time, we were tired. Can you remember that minute. I mean, you just, you're just overwhelmed, it's so much fun. She didn't say at the time that it was a major problem or that it was something to watch out for. I had to be rescanned latter. It's been a heartbreaking nightmare. The baby kicked, blissfully unaware of what I had done. My wife turned the screen away from her. And I felt like a murderer. I feel empty and incomplete. As I lay down, and the sonographer started, I could see there was something wrong. And attribute some blame to them. The doctor told me he was 98% sure this was a failing twin pregnancy. I think they perhaps could have done, if they had looked a bit closely. Specialist scans had a powerful effect on some parents because they could see the baby more clearly and in some cases people recognised which parts of the baby's body were not working properly. Many described how sonographers and doctors were very restrained and didn't speak at all until they had analysed all the baby's details.
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